If Suzie loves you - and I am sure she does - she would never get over the guilt if one or both of her grandparents became infected and possibly died of COVID because she pressured them into attending. This may not fulfill your daughter and granddaughter’s fantasy, but it’s better than nothing. Soften the blow by agreeing to attend via Zoom or one of the other video-chat platforms. What is your opinion?ĭEAR ON: Given the fact that you and your husband have health issues, you are making a mature and appropriate decision. My daughter and granddaughter are very upset that we are not coming. The wedding party will mostly be young people. We are in our mid-70s and both of us have some health issues. Suzie’s father is not in the picture.īecause of the pandemic, my husband and I must decline the invitation. Because the divorce was “ugly,” do not expect him to react positively after more than three decades of icy silence.Īs to your son, whatever the situation has been for most of his life, he is accustomed to it.ĭEAR ABBY: My granddaughter, “Suzie,” is getting married in a month in a fairly large wedding. What do you think?ĭEAR WHITE FLAG: I see no harm in writing the letter to your ex. I wonder if it would make my son happy if his father and I were on better terms, so I have been thinking of writing to my ex and asking if we could talk sometime. I’m tired of hating and I don’t want him to hate me. Now that we are older, for the benefit of our son, I would like for my ex and I to be civil to each other. My ex and I haven’t spoken since the divorce because it was ugly. Dear Abby: I’m still sad and angry I didn’t get the wedding I wanted – East Bay Times

Bride letter to dad